The Gospel of Bad Experience

Raise your hand if this sounds familiar:


You’re in the market for a new car but can’t decide on the make and model, so you ask around. “Oh, don’t get that make,” says someone about your first choice, “those cars are notorious for transmission problems.” So you take their word for it without researching on your own and move on to a different choice.

Or, maybe you see an article in your social media feed about a “revolutionary new way of life, ” and it sounds exciting! You can’t wait to devour the text, but first, you decide to click on the comments, and after reading a few that claim the article to be junk, you don’t even click on the link to see for yourself.

We all do this. We take the advice of someone else, even if we don’t know that person or trust their credibility! Why? Because we suppress fears of our own, and often, someone’s opinion activates that concern, and we choose to shut down instead of finding out the truth for ourselves.


If you’ve decided invest in your education to further your career in real estate investing, and you’ve told anyone about it, you’ve likely encountered some strong opinions.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.”

Steve Jobs

These doubts are often based on prejudices. I’ll explain. Let’s say you attend a webinar of mine where I break down how you are going to make $250,000 in liquid capital over the next 5 years, and in your excitement on this discovery, you tell your best friend who didn’t see the webinar. In their experience, they’ve never traveled down an avenue where that level of wealth was achievable in that amount of time, so their reaction based on their understanding of how money works (which is probably misguided) and is prejudice against yours and mine.

I get it. You don’t want to look bad in front of your peer group. But, that’s not the only place you get these warnings. Chances are you’ve fallen victim to bad third party info at one point in your life. You go on the internet to research a company, and because one person had a bad experience, you assume that is the gospel, the truth. Do you want to practice an exercise in fragility? Go onto an online search engine right now and type in your favorite drink (soda, juice, coffee, WATER even) and you’ll find thousands of opinions on whether or not you should drink it and why.

I’m not trying to create an objection that isn’t there. But, let’s face it, if you’re influenced by the reactions of those around you, then this imaginary gospel of bad experience is the pink elephant in the room and needs to be addressed.

Don’t take someone else’s opinion as reality. Go out and experience something for yourself. Do your own sound research and get involved. Don’t listen to the naysayers, especially if it has anything to do with making money because I can assure you that they’re merely trying to steal your thunder. Don’t let it happen. Don’t let negative feedback dictate how you live your life.

The truth is, if you’re excited about something and you share it with your friends and family, plan on getting negative feedback. When I had to go out and raise money for the first training that I attended, I solicited friends, family, and fellow church members, and not a single one of them would help me raise the necessary funds to start my education. (And yes, I’ve spent thousands on my education. I would never ask you to do something I haven’t done.) Why wouldn’t anyone help? Negative feedback. (Let’s save what they say to me now that I’m worth millions for another time.) But I didn’t let their negativity steal my enthusiasm. I went out there and made it happen anyway, and you can, too.

“Change your opinions, keep to your principles; change your leaves, keep intact your roots.”

Victor Hugo

Unfortunately, because so many people come through these channels to succeed, there is a prejudice against how you make money doing this. Sometimes, that regretful experience is yours. You got involved in something like this before, and you had a terrible encounter. You harbor fears that you’ll waste time, money, or energy on the wrong thing. How do you overcome fears when they are your own? It isn’t easy, I can promise you that, but you must find enough faith in yourself that you can overcome the past and move forward. You need to find the right system that isn’t going to jerk you around with false promises and poorly structured education.

I’ve been doing this a long time, and I’ve yet to meet anyone who teaches, instructs, and trains on all the facets of the industry that we do here at the Lee Arnold System of Real Estate. Not one. What I teach is an accumulation of literally hundreds of people that I’ve either paid or have had the privilege of being associated with to glean from them what they have been successful doing. I’ve taken from them all those great things and am now giving it to you in clean, condensed packages so you can go out and immediately start implementing these strategies.

Now, I’m certainly not saying that I know everything. I have a lot of business yet to conduct and a lot to learn, but what I’ve learned up to this point can take you further faster than doing it on your own. If you work hard and implement what you are taught, you will succeed.

Don’t let prejudices steal your thunder and talk you down. Don’t let the fear of others become your fear.

If you’re on the fence. I encourage you to jump onto this side. Where else are you going to learn it?

To Your Success;

Lee A. Arnold


The Lee Arnold System of Real Estate Investing

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